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Oops, missed some days here, bad boyThats right I am a bad boy, been 3 days or so since my last post on here, we cant have that now can we???Well, when things get busy its easy to forget to make a little post, and when your heads up your ass, sometimes its not easy to think what to write about. Today i am going to be writing about, mostly, cabbages!! only joking, really I have got some stuff to talk about today it will be coming up. DONT Waste your Domains, Even those .info ones you all got for free last year, DONT WASTE THEM!! All my .infos are going to need reregistering in november, and so far only 2 out of at least 25 of mine are doing anything, so I decided today, well yesterday really, that it doesnt really make any sense to just leave them, so I am going to put something on every single one, I was thinking, a Blog on index, a "mini Linkist" linked off the blog, and even a Fake TGP linked off the log on all of them, that way i can trade traffic with all the Fake TGPS I make, around 25 to start with, and hopefully as i by product I should help build some traffic to the blogs. I wonder, if the traffic from the Fake TGPs will Like the BLOGs however, but theres only one way to find out, Get in and DO IT!!! Gonna report back later! 6:01 AM - Wednesday, August 31, 2005 - comments {0} - post commentHave you REALLY got that many Problems??I tend to sometimes, go on about my stresses in life,"No," I hear you saying but yes its true!. One thing however, you wont here me say, "I cant because......" and then real off a list of issues, never, really one primary reason I comment on stressfull situations of my own is because it helps me evaluate everything and keep things in perspective, also I do it becasue often I notice people complain about the silliest of Little things, "my host didnt let me break the TOS so they shut me down for a day" "I write "CLICK FOR FREE PORN" and my conversions suck" "I cant run an Adult Business as my girl would kill me" or one of the best ones out there, "I havent got money to do blah blah blah" I KNOW, That My Life is EASY Compared to some other people I know and have met in my Webmaster lifetime. Do You Moan about Bullshit, well think about this, One Webmaster who strives to do as much to help everyone aswell as build there business, had a serious family tragedy and lost Child, BUT STILL, you wouldnt even know this happened because they are a regular NOOB Coach and helps out all the time and never moans. Dont you think thats a reason to hinder your business, answer, NO, One webmaster I know, had the launch of a big new affiliate program round the corner, when all of a sudden the Tax man busted and seized all the company assets, but did anyone even Know about this, NO, why, because this person just spent 4 nights solid phoning round everyone they could possibly imagine to make sure that the Affiliate program could launch, because a problem wasnt going to stop that business from getting to where it is today. Finally, one webmaster I know, got shot three times and ended up hospitalised, yet everyday they where at there hospital bed building sites so that in the only Two hours a day that this person could hook the lappers up to the net they could upload as much and submit as many as they possibly could. A PROBLEM ISNT A PROBLEM UNLESS YOU MAKE IT, therefore it stands to reason, the only problem in your life, is you? Right? 5:39 AM - Saturday, August 27, 2005 - comments {0} - post commentStarting from scratchJust a thought floating round my head today while I been working, wondering, how many people have pondered where they would actually start from if they had to do everything all over from the begining??if you been webmastering for one year, then you would have learnt a lot of stuff no doubt, hopefully started to make some decent money, and thinking about where your going to be taking your adult business in the next year. Well, if for whatever reason you did have to start all over again, would you start out the same as you had, would you skip past some of the less productive tasks, if indeed you have noticed that anything is less productive than anything else, or, would you just try and o it all the same x5!? Me I sort of feel like putting myself in that position once I manage to get us all relocated to France, it would be the perfect opportunity to "start over" as it where, and my thoughts are leaning toward the "mass" building, like 5x what I did before, with help of couple of folks of course (family delegates are often the greatest resource, but also sometimes the most trouble ;-) I have mentioned in my last couple of posts, about being original, about being a "business man" instead of a worker, well writing shit is all well and good but sometimes things need elaborating on slightly, or a lot, so I am inclined to feel that this is what I should be contributing to my blog aswell. Its hard, to run a physical "offline" business with very little help, aswell as strive to build an empire of websites, all on top of getting everything together for a big Move, again all of this while being a "FullySelfCertified Nurse" half the time too. SOMETIMES, its GOOD to cut your losses, and take a fresh new approach! When things arent going quite to plan if your going to make it on your own in this world then you need to have the determination that no matter what the obstacles in your way are, you will be able to get round, crawl over, smash through or dig under to get to the other side, and occasionally, that means taking a step back and starting again. For Sometimes the obstacle may be so big, that it would be quicker, to go back where you started on your path, and ensure that you divert your efforts to avoid the obstacle, instead of spending TOO long getting round/smashing etc. 5:24 AM - Saturday, August 27, 2005 - comments {0} - post commentshare a pie, or make your own?This ones sort of following on from my last post, in the sense of now I want to talk about sharing a pie or being a baker.Like we spoke about, what people tell you works and being careful about listening to "Old" advice. Are you sharing a Piece of a big fat pie, that inevitably is getting smaller and smaller, or are you trying to concoct your very own recipe for a pie all for yourself? WHAT THE FUCK DOES THAT MEAN??? Well, look at it like this- We all know there are a few fundamental strategies to building traffic in the adult web, right? So, we all seem to start with, maybe building and submitting galleries, or building and submitting Freesites, or even perhaps we start off with a TGP site or Fake TGP or CJ site or whatever. You, AND HOW MANY OTHERS???? I AM NOT saying at all that these wont make you money, but just take a step back and look at the BIG picture for a moment, how many more people are going to start submitting by the end of the year? How many more new TGP/CJ whatever are going to sprout up by the end of the year? HOW MANY PEOPLE ARE GOING TO BE TRYTING TO SELL THE SAME SHIT TO THE SAME SURFER AS YOU???? The more people eating from the same pie, the less pie there is to go around, obviously its common sense. WTF Can be done about this, IF, If you even care about and REALISE what I am saying then?? Well the only thing I can say is that nowadays, you have to be seriously thinking about what you can do THAT NOONE ELSE IS DOING YET! Hard I know, but the rough reality of it is that sooner or later you will need to step up your game and create your own recipe for success, instead of following everyone elses. but, dont get it twisted here, DONT stop Building Submitting and Forgetting, DONT stop making your TGP/CJ/Whatever, JUST PLEASE DONT put ALL your eggs in the one basket because that basket may one day get full up and split, and leave you with nothing. If YOU as a BUSINESSPERSON(not a Webmaster) Can whittle down your Daily "sheep" Routine (even I do it so I am not offending, its coining a phrase) to half the time it currently takes you, and then try and do something TOTALLY Original in the other half then when the day comes that TGP is no more(will that happen?) YOU will have YOUR VERY OWN pie to eat from, and the smart thing to do now would be to Bottle up the recipe and make it benefit you more, coz lots of others will want a piece of your pie, just make sure it beneifts you while shairng. Makes sense?? 6:16 AM - Friday, August 26, 2005 - comments {0} - post commentThose who cant, teachEver heard that before?you know something, it definetely has to be one of the truest things I have ever heard, even I myself have fallen into the trap of preaching and not achieveing! Often I have to try hard and resist the temptation of preaching to people on forum boards, I leave it to someone else, but I hate it when I see people just quoting stuff they read from somewhere else and havent implemented it themselves. Most of the folks who are ACTUALLY doing what others are talking about, dont actually have the time to share with everyone the methods and tricks they are using, so it stands to reason, when you hear someone telling you how to do something, step back and just think to yourself, "ok, well, who the fuck are you to tell me what to do, what have you achieved from it" Theres a big difference between saying, "here, read this interesting article I found it may help" and saying " THIS IS HOW YOU DO SOMETHING" Personally, I have tried my hardest not to offer my assistance to people, not because I dont know what I am talking about far from it I do, and the few people wo have had help from me will tell you the same, but rather purely because of my own unorganised life I havent implememnted every strategy that I feel is neccesary for success, and also I havent had the success yet that I know I am going to achieve. But still, from someone who has spent the last couple/3 years or so dabbling and learning and earning and inventing etc, I tend to forget where I started from and seeing how newbies have so much to take in sometimes its hard for them to know where to start. THOSE WHO CAN, DO, THOSE WHO CANT, TEACH Always remember this, when someone gives you the golden piece of advice, dont be scared to pull them up and try and find holes in what they are saying, if it is genuine advice from a genuine person, then generally they will be more than happy to discuss any issues and discrepencies and anything else that you may point out, as that person should be doing what they are talking about and making it successful. One perfect example is an old AVS tutorial someone wrote at the pond once, which was full of wholes, OBVIOUSLY, this person HAD done AVS sites as a means of building traffic, but definetely SOME TIME before they wrote the tutorial and definetly had STOPPED Doing it, otherwise they would have known the few important points that I had brung to their attention already, seeing as I WAS doing avs EVERY DAY at the time. BUT NO, More people licked ass becasue MrMan had posted a "Tutorial" for everyone to benefit from, which would have inevitably caused any followers some extra and Unnecassry stress from points he had missed out on. Point being, THOSE WHO CAN, DO, THOSE WHO CANT, TEACH Always ask yourself if this person is STILL dong what they are talking about, or if it is something they USED to do, remember, the WWW is a changing world and what worked well last year may not work well next, and so on. So before you go listening to what everyone TELLS you to do, think about it for yourself first. Obviously we all need to start somewhere and the raw fundamentals are generally going to be the same, Build Submit Forget, Every single day, etc etc but if you cant be creative and work your own ideas and implement your own new starteguies, then all your ever going to be doing is what someone else told you to do, and chaisng the pack for the left over crumbs. Get what i mean? 6:01 AM - Friday, August 26, 2005 - comments {0} - post commentPackin up and goin to franceDue to personal circumstances, it seems me and my little family are going to have to pack up all our shit and make the move to france, which is quite a big one considering I cant even spell bonjoor or speak a word of french, but we are going to live with my mum in her nice big house(all going well that is) and then I should have a small army of workers to get my Mundane work tasks delegated to each and every day.Dont know how long it will be, probably got at least two weeks before we move, its a shame as I have built up a steadily increasing network of Customers for T-ashirts etc in the UK but fuck it such is life, I can be self sufficient in any country, and can still sell to my UK customers just make em wait a week or so for delivery, right Anyway thats that I got some work to do I am gonna pop on laters and make some more useful/useless posts about me and my life. Have a good day folks 5:04 AM - Friday, August 26, 2005 - comments {0} - post commenttoo much to say about nothingyep, thats me, definetely, TOO MUCH TO SAY,about absolutely nothing!!! FUCK OFF 3 posts a day keeps the Therapist Away! thats what i say 4:10 PM - Thursday, August 25, 2005 - comments {0} - post commentBusiness man, or Self-EmployedThis ones going to be really quick, not like the Longsense Nonsense I usually write.Once, while attending some or other course I have been on, I got speaking to someone about my plans. he made a comment what made me think, and it was actually very true. He said to me, that my plans of running a business where unlike a lot of other peoples that he speaks to, essentially because I wanted to create a Running Business, while most others Businesses where merely a form of Self Employment. Right now, I wont lie, I am Self Employed, I do OK, but to be a Real Business I need to be making money even when I personally am not doing any work. A builder has a good business, but when he doesnt work, he doesnt get paid. A construction company however, the owner probably never sets foot on a site anymore, as clients ring an office, manned by a secretary, who arranges the job with the workers perhaps(maybe not the secretary does that but you get what I mean) and the owner just gets to see his cheques! THAT, is the hardest transition between Self Employment and Being a business, although with the internet its is somewhat different, but basically when you can control a workforce that takes responsiblity of running your business then your are truly "In Business". Thats just my thoughts though. Lots of webmasters are self-employed, because they dont work smart enough to build and move on to the next level of their businesses and truly become a business. Example is this, until April 2004 I was building and submitting every single day for about a year, and it made me some decent sales I was averaging 20+ sales a week at that time. Then, for reasons maybe I shall disclose another day I spent a few months of my life in prison, during which I lost my server due to my delegated party not doing what they where asked and paying my fees, so all my sites went down, and since I got out I havent really ever built it back up again. Saying that, still some of my sites where on sponsor servers and free hosts etc just not too many, but still they give me a small amount of money each month for doing nothing. NOW, If I had been truly smarter, I would have ensured that all those hours I had put in at the start would still be benefiting me now, and would have made sure that the people around me and working with me wohere more reliable etc but such is life and you live and learn. 3:56 PM - Thursday, August 25, 2005 - comments {0} - post commentAll About Me!!hey there people!This ones purely to try and let you now a little bit about me, so as you may be able to feel where I'm coming from when I am writing here. My Name is Martin, I am soon to have my 23rd Birthday, on the 12 of next month in fact. most of my recent life, since the age of 14, I have basically had to fend for myself, through choice and through situation, no complaints though about that, such is life, experience makes you who you are and I am always of the mindset that there is always people worst off than you. Dont get me wrong, i firmly beleive in that, but I still feel the need to sometimes to rant about the stress in my own life a bit, like I said before sometimes just to get it off my chest so as not to blow up with inner buildup! I have a family, a Mrs and a Son, my girl is about 8 months younger than me, and has some serious health issues too. Our son is going to be 4 yrs old in november I cant beleive how fast that has gone by WoW! Regarding my girls health its sort of an ongoing issue she has a Heart Valve replacement and a Pacemaker, and suffers from a Blood Issue aswell due to taking Warfarin to thin her blood. Fuck, Warfarin is quite mad, you know that stuff is actual Rat Poison! thats right rat poison to thin your blood out, but I bet some of you knoew that sort of stuff already. In the last six months before christmas last year she must have spent a good Four of those months in Hospital on and off, which was quite hard at the time for me, juggling trying to make money with looking after my son and visiting her in hospital. Anyway the begining of this year I was determined to build up my empire and take TOTAL Control of my life, so as to ensure that all the stresses that are going to be a Constant part of our life would be somewhat aleviated by the fact that financially we dont need to struggle. Nice dream, not the easiest of things to achieve, when you start with nothing but a Big hindrance of a family that needs your constant attention and help. Shit man that makes me sound like I hate my family for holding me back, now please dont beleive that I love my girl, and I would never change the buirth of my son if it wasnt for him being born I can seriously see that I would have gone down a different Life Path than I did. Even saying that over these past four years I have taken the wrong Fork in the Road one or two times, which has caused us emense starin on our relationship and life but what dont kill ya only makes you stronger right? So My Business, right now I am establishing a Merchandise printing business doing t-shirts mousemats liscence plates etc. Thats a small part of my bigger picture, but the issue with a Real Life Tangible manufactured product is all the ManPower that is inevitably needed to make it a Business rather than a form of Self Employment. Wow, Thats something to write about huh, the difference between, being a business man, and being Self-Employed, definetley cover that next time. i write a lot, and it doesnt all have anything to do with anything, but its all stuff I need to write, so in years to come, I can look back, and remember the journey I took to get there. Enjoy, Bye for now 3:39 PM - Thursday, August 25, 2005 - comments {0} - post commentMy First Posthmmm, how excting does it feel to finally start writing down a history of my life, not only as an adult webmaster but my life as everything else that I am too.In all honesty for the last year being an adult webmaster has certainly taken a back burner in my plans of world domination, but still it does factor as an important part of things to come. I have been focusing so much on Offline and Mainstream activities that I have hardly had 1/2 hour a week to do any site maintainance for my porn stuff. not even through choice really, but more through the fact that it is really hard to find good people to work with who will share responsibility and workload to achieve a common goal, leaving any work that needed to be shared either for me to do , or to someone who I have to pay but doesnt know what they are doing, ending up costing me more money and time than its was actually worth in the end. It pisses me off when I offer people opportunity and people dont want to take it, so now things are different and my mentality is going to change. It is all about doing everything yourself, fuck anyone else, being reliant on someone inevitably somewhere along the lines will cause stress and perhaps failure because the person you rely on may not have the same responsiblities, and therefore drive and motivation, as you have and need. Dont get me wrong, I perfectly understand that All Good Business has to outsource, delegate and do as much as they can to increase workrate and production, I Wish It where THAT EASY!!!! Seriously, Recently I have had people let me down so much that things have nearly overwhelmed me so its been weeks of sleepless nights, weeks of stressing out at my little family because of all the added stress they give me that even though I love them so much it nearly feels like sometimes they are a Big Mill Stone around my neck, but I still ramble on through! Bam, thats it, a taste of things to come, listen folks, anyone who reads this, Perhaps I am a using the wrong medium, perhaps i shouldnt do this, but see, I am right now in need of a platform to vent my stress and feelings, I dont speak to anyone and really, keeping things inside isnt good, so TO SUM UP, Fuck You if you dont care about me, I DONT CARE ABOUT YOU!!!(haha) This is MY Personal Therapy, SO FUCK YOU IF YOU DONT LIKE IT, DONT READ!!!! 3:00 PM - Thursday, August 25, 2005 |
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